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According to the Backwards Law, the pursuit of happiness, success, or any desired outcome can actually push it further away. This happens because the more desperate and attached we become to achieving something, the more it eludes us.
QUOTE OF THE DAY
The whole problem with the world is that the fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves and wiser people are so full of doubts.
THE BACKWARDS LAW
According to the Backwards Law, the pursuit of happiness, success, or any desired outcome can actually push it further away. This happens because the more desperate and attached we become to achieving something, the more it eludes us.
A good example of this is with Navy Seals. Part of their basic training is an underwater exercise one of the things that they have to do is they have to swim to the bottom of a pool, and they have to tie these knots underwater, and then they have to swim back up to the surface. And they do this over and over again. What happens is, a lot of times, the guys will get to the bottom, they'll tie the knots, and they'll swim up to the surface, and they'll be gasping for air. They'll be completely out of breath. And they'll look at their instructor, and their instructor will say, 'You didn't have enough air, go back down, and do it again.'
But what the instructor tells them is, 'Listen, the more desperate you are for air, the more the pool will fight you.' And what he means by that is, the more you're attached to that outcome, the more you're attached to getting air, the more you're attached to surviving, the more your body tenses up, the more you panic, and the less likely you are to actually make it to the surface.
Diminishing return curve
You have to be aware of the diminishing return curve which is the idea that the more you try to achieve something the less rewarding and effective it becomes. Productivity is a great example, Working for 1-4 hours youâll see a great increase in your work output however anything above that and it becomes much less effective
ACTIONABLE NEXT STEPS:
Allow your mind to stop chasing its own tail and allow it to achieve its desires by giving up its desires. Let go of things that are beyond your control.
TAKEAWAYS:
Accept that most of the things that you do in life will result in failure. This is okay because itâs the only thing that will allow you to get to the surface and do it again.
BOOK OF THE WEEK —ïž
The book of the week is âThe Art of Thinking Clearlyâ By Rolf Dobelli. A book that aims to illuminate our day-to-day thinking âhiccupsâ so that we can better avoid them and start making improved choices. Using both psychological studies and everyday examples. Check it out HERE
CREATOR OF THE WEEK —ïž
The creator of the week is @filmwithlou, a lifestyle/motivation creator that makes extremely well-edited content all focused on helping you become a better person. He shares lessons in a super creative way that you havenât seen before! Check him out HERE
LESSON OF THE DAY —ïž
Neediness repels people - The constant desire to be free from constraint is a constraint itself.
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