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The Cost of Being Exceptional
If you want to be exceptional, you're going to be different from everyone else. That's what makes you exceptional. You can't fit in and also be exceptional; both cause discomfort.
Callum Carver
March 01, 2024
QUOTE OF THE DAY
“We are often more frightened than hurt; and we suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
THE COST OF BEING EXCEPTIONAL
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If you want to be exceptional, you're going to be different from everyone else. That's what makes you exceptional.
You can't fit in and also be exceptional; both cause discomfort.
When you fit in, you have internal conflict because you're not being 100% you.
When you're exceptional, you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different.
When your friends start to say you've changed, remember that it's because they don't know how to say you've grown.
Most people have the potential to be exceptional because most people are peculiar in their own way; however, the majority of the time, they just stifle that because the need to be accepted outweighs the chance of being exceptional, therefore never accomplishing what they want to do.
When you’re 83 in your retirement home, do you want the reality to be that you tell your grandchildren you didn’t live your life to the fullest because you were scared of what others might think of you?
Or do you want the reality to be that you did what you wanted, when you wanted, and lived one hell of a life because of it?
People will quite literally not chase the life that they desire due to the simple fear of random strangers not agreeing or not understanding what it is that they are doing.
Reading that, you would probably think that's the stupidest thing ever, but it’s true.
People will live the lives that they believe they should instead of the ones that they want to due to the fear of not fitting in, which is daylight robbery.
How can you make sure that you don’t fall into this trap?
You need to make sure that you are consciously questioning every decision that you make and asking the question.
“Am I making this decision because it aligns with what I want in life, or am I making it because it aligns with what others want?”
If you can’t clearly identify that you’re making the decision for yourself, then chances are, you’re not.
It’s much easier for us to make mindless decisions in a state of auto-pilot as opposed to constantly questioning everything that we do.
TAKEAWAYS:
Remember that if you want to be exceptional, it’s going to cost you your comfort and normality. If you’re not willing to give that up, don’t even bother starting.
BOOK OF THE WEEK ⤵️
The book of the week is ‘The E Myth Revisited’ by Michael E. Gerber.
A book all about how to create systems around your business so that it can run itself. Check it out HERE
CREATOR OF THE WEEK ⤵️
LESSON OF THE DAY ⤵️
“How do I find the balance between feeling content and happy where I am without getting complacent (I am not where I would like to be but am making progress)”
You need to learn to love the journey because the man who loves walking will walk much further than the man who loves the destination.
What's meant by this is that if you’re always chasing some place that you’re not, then you will never feel content; there will always be this nagging feeling in the back of your mind that will invariably make you depressed.
Each new day is a milestone and should be treated as such.
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