🌳 3 Mental Models to Develop Thick Skin

QUOTE OF THE DAY

In simple terms, You should make enemies, enemies are made through you pursuing your goals and generating resentment from others. Trying to get everyone to like you shows you have no views, no character and you’re nothing but a sponge.

3 MENTAL MODELS TO DEVELOP THICK SKIN

Using mental models to help reinforce something you’re trying to become better at is a fantastic method to do so. It essentially provides you with extra encouragement or reason to keep doing the thing you set out to do. This can be developing mental models to help yourself wake up early or doing exercise but in this case, let’s go over 3 mental models to develop thick skin.

Spotlight effect

We all tend to think that people are paying much more attention to us than they actually are and this breeds insecurities and self-consciousness. We walk around the shops or around town thinking all eyes are on us. Everyone is judging what we are wearing, how we are walking, and what our hair looks like that particular day.

Here’s the harsh truth:

Your freedom begins the day you realize nobody is thinking about you. Because nobody is.

Everyone is so focused and worried about what others think of them that they don’t have the time or energy to focus on others. If everyone is worried about what others think of them then whos the real fool?

You don’t have a spotlight on yourself and worst case scenario someone does pay attention to you, you become a distant memory in minutes.

The ‘Procedure or Perception’ Razor

People love to give feedback, out of resentment, jealousy, spite or just the kindness of their heart but when you receive negative feedback, ask yourself:

• Should I change my procedure (the actions you take)

• Or should I change my perception (How I interpret the advice I’ve been given?)

This way you don’t take everything you’re told as a punch in the face that causes you to overthink or doubt yourself but you can analyse it properly and do with it what you should.

Remember to avoid constructive feedback from people who’ve never constructed anything.

The 10% hater rule

You will receive comments that are topically positive, It’s much easier for people to throw something ‘nice’ at you as per to nasty however there will always be someone to turn the other way. No matter if you’re saving puppies from a house fire or you’re trying to change the world for the better.

Remember that 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it and treat it as math” - Tim Ferris

ACTIONABLE NEXT STEPS:

Build up and search for more of these mental models and implement them into your life. You can use them as a tool in your arsenal for whenever necessary and the more you have the more situations you can deal with.

TAKEAWAYS:

• You don’t have a spotlight on you, no one does.

• Advice is what you perceive it as.

• There will always be 10% of people that hate, treat it as math.

BOOK OF THE WEEK ⤵️

The book of the week is The Psychology Of Money by Morgan Housel, referred to as ‘The book of Timeless lessons on wealth, greed, and happiness’. Its a book about your mind, and how it thinks about money, savings, expenditure and investments. A must-read if you want to enhance your understanding of money (and enhance the amount of it you have!) Check it out HERE

CREATOR OF THE WEEK ⤵️

The creator of the week is @Jatznaran, a UK-based finance creator sharing tips on money, business, investing, and also content around general self-improvement. He shares tips, tricks and his experience as an entrepreneur whilst teaching you how to become one yourself. Check him out HERE

LESSON OF THE DAY ⤵️

Your life is dictated by your self-image.

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